Thoughts of Giving & Receiving
The act of giving is a challenge for many people, & often around the holidays, it seems to be on the minds of everyone I speak with.
“Am I giving enough?”
“Am I giving the right thing?”
“Who do I want to give to?”
“Who do I have to give to?”
“Can I afford to give enough?”
At the heart of these questions is usually fear & what each person is afraid of may be different. It’s as if by giving, in some way, we believe that we may be disappointing others or letting them down.
One thought I have about this is there are many ways we give of ourselves to others & you can find a way that makes you feel good in your heart so that you can feel safe, loving, & positive about who you are & the choices that you make.
Receiving from others is also on people’s minds during the holiday season more than any other time of year. You may be looking forward to receiving gifts, yet the act of accepting the presents in your heart can be a bit difficult for you.
Feelings of vulnerability are often present when we receive. We may feel that our friends/family are not sensitive to our taste or that they did not take the time to plan for our gifts, which can create feelings of hurt, resentment, being unimportant.
Many of us are uncomfortable with receiving, much more so than with giving because receiving taps into our own feelings of being loved. For some people, it can be much more challenging to allow love in & receiving does just that.
A lovely ritual you can do to assist yourself in allowing to both give & receive with ease is the following:
- Light a white candle.
- Sit in front of it for 5 minutes, watching it, letting your mind float.
- Wonder about the first three times you received something. Notice how you felt, what you saw/heard?
- Now notice what you feel/think about those three times now.
- What are your challenges with giving & receiving?