Thoughts About Friendship
Friendship, what is it, what does it mean, what kind of expectations do we have about it? What I have observed is that many people call acquaintances friends. For many years this confused me as my definition of friendship went deeper. A friend to me was someone that could be counted upon to hold my […]
Age, Dreams, Goals
Having dreams and setting new goals is something that in western culture people seem to think is only for young people. You can define young anyway you choose, depending upon your age or bias’s. For some 30 is old, for others 60 is young, and for some no age is too old to reinvent yourself. […]
Obesity is a State of Mind
How does one lose weight and keep it off? Just making up your mind usually doesn’t work for most of us. I have met and witnessed so many people who seem to live their lives on diets. Many who are quite overweight and yet have had no success with any diet, or at least not […]
Thoughts on Giving and Receiving
Giving of oneself is a challenge for many people, and often around the holidays it seems to be on our minds. Am I giving enough? Am I giving the right thing? Who do I want to give to? Who do I have to give to? Can I afford to give enough? At the heart of […]
A Holistic Approach to Grieving
NPR ran a story about Veterans with PTSD. A client sent me this line from it, “ … all people have the ability to reason, unless they’re grieving. So oftentimes I ask the veterans, “If you can’t reason, what is it you’re grieving?” We often believe that relationships are to be permanent, yet loss and […]
Emotional Infidelity – What is it? Is it in YOUR Life?
Many people think that infidelity is only sexual. The #1 form of infidelity is Emotional Infidelity. It usually stems out of feeling that something is missing in your relationship. You may feel disconnected from your partner. What is best is to talk to your partner about feeling disconnected. If you cannot talk to your partner […]
Express Your Feelings Today
I have invited Yaz Headley of http://thecompletelife.com from the UK to guest blog on my blog for your pleasure: We can have so many joys and regrets in our lives. Bronnie Ware wrote a book on “The top five regrets of the dying”. One of the regrets she found was that they often wished they […]
Couple vs. Individual Therapy for a Couple
Here is a link to a video that will answer a question that couples calling me often ask: Is it better to be in individual therapy or couples therapy in order to save my relationship? I hope you find this helpful:
How do I get close without getting lost while in a committed relationship?
Ever wonder how to know if you are being intrusive? It is much easier to get when someone else is being intrusive. Sometimes that can be confusing as well. When we are in a committed relationship our confusion with boundaries becomes most evident. It can be quite confusing. Is it okay if I tell my […]
Peace, Happiness, You, I, Us…
The elusive desire for happiness often leads to consuming as much as possible. To have the biggest house, not just one but as many as we can afford to buy and furnish. To have the most expensive cars, clothing jewelry. We often think that the more we own, the bigger it is, the more expensive […]