Tag: influence

How to Make a Great Decision!

For a moment think about the decisions that you made this week. Were they easy or difficult? Did you avoid or postpone any decisions? Are you hoping that others will make the decision for you?

Making decisions are important because how you make the decision and of course what decision you make will influence the quality of your life and happiness.

What makes decisions a challenge for many of us is that there is a lack of certainty with most decisions. Each decision is a risk.

How can you help yourself know the best decisions to make? Reminds me of the scarecrow in the film ‘The wizard of Oz’, at every cross roads he would just trust his heart, swing his arms and walk; but not all of us are comfortable with this approach.

Another way to begin is by making an analysis of the situation. Based on the knowledge and circumstances of the moment, weigh the pros and the cons of each possibility and then ask yourself these questions:

  • Will this decision reflect my personal values?
  • What is my body telling me about this decision (tense, relaxed)?
  • Do I feel great about the direction this decision is taking me?

By doing this you are considering your actions and insuring that you are acting from your best intentions. If after you have made a decision, you notice that it’s taking you in a direction you don’t desire, you can stop, re-evaluate and make a different decision that will take you in the direction you prefer to go.

The Influence of Parents on Personality Development

As children, we look to our families to take care of our basic needs; they are also our most important source of information about the world. It is through our relationship with them that we learn how to think and feel about ourselves and what to expect from others.

Our view of the world and who we are in it is often created by the ways in which our parents treated us, the way they acted towards each other and the kinds of messages their behavior communicated to us. This early learning is reflected in the quality of the relationships that we have in our lives…

Consider the relationships presently in your life. Notice how you act similarly and different from your parents.

A fun exercise that will allow you to see and understand the traits you carry that are similar and different from your parents is this:

Take 3 sheets of paper

  • 1st sheet – Make a list of your positive and negative traits
  • 2nd sheet – Make a list of your father’s positive/negative traits
  • 3rd sheet – Make a list of your mother’s positive/negative traits

Now put a check mark next to the traits that are the same on all three lists

  • Notice that any traits you truly dislike in another may very well be a trait of yours that you have not acknowledged.