Couple vs. Individual Therapy for a Couple
Here is a link to a video that will answer a question that couples calling me often ask: Is it better to be in individual therapy or couples therapy in order to save my relationship? I hope you find this helpful:
Life and Loss
Most of us believe that relationships are supposed to be permanent, yet loss and grieving is a theme in our lives. Inevitably along our path someone dies or will be left behind. Loss of a relationship plays a significant part in all of our lives, as it is part of life. Often we define ourselves […]
How do I get close without getting lost while in a committed relationship?
Ever wonder how to know if you are being intrusive? It is much easier to get when someone else is being intrusive. Sometimes that can be confusing as well. When we are in a committed relationship our confusion with boundaries becomes most evident. It can be quite confusing. Is it okay if I tell my […]
Peace, Happiness, You, I, Us…
The elusive desire for happiness often leads to consuming as much as possible. To have the biggest house, not just one but as many as we can afford to buy and furnish. To have the most expensive cars, clothing jewelry. We often think that the more we own, the bigger it is, the more expensive […]
Divorce ?
When we marry most of us believe it really is for the rest of our lives. We often create a combined life as well as individual life. It is the combined life however that usually has the priority in marriage. Separating from our life partner is painful; feelings of anger, abandonment and yes relief may […]
How to Make a Great Decision
For a moment think about the decisions that you made this week. Were they easy or difficult? Did you avoid or postpone any decisions? Are you hoping that others will make the decision for you? Making decisions are important because how you make the decision and of course what decision you make will influence the […]
The ‘Space-Between’
My Colleague Hedy Schleifer uses the term ‘Space-Between’ when describing what occurs energetically between two people in a relationship. I find this term very useful and wanted to share my point of view with you. Consider that Relationships live in the ‘Space-Between’ you and your partner? The space that often you can feel but do […]
From the Buddha’s Dhammapada
(Freely translated by Stephen Mitchell.) Mind creates the world; what you see arises with your thoughts. If you speak and act with a confused mind, trouble will follow you as certainly as a cart follows the ox that pulls it. Mind creates the world; what you see arises with your thoughts. If you speak and […]
Growing an Intimate Relationship
Are you married now? Have you thought about being married? Do you ever wonder how you can have a lasting marriage? Do you want to re-marry but are unsure it’s right? Think about how much work you put into preparing for a career. Weddings as well often take a large amount of planning and preparation. […]
Confusing Marital Statistics
The latest statistics on marriage in the United States say that 41% of first marriages end in divorce, 60% of second marriages and 73% of third marriages. This can be misleading. They initially might make one want to work in couples’ therapy on their first marriage as it has a higher possibility of success. While […]