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Making A Meaningful Change In Your Life

_269Is there an area of your life where you’d like to see different results, or where you’d like to create something completely new? While evolution or resolution can occur on its own, we often need to actively participate in initiating change in order for our desired outcomes to occur.

Know where you stand.

Take an honest, non-critical look at yourself in this moment. In an area of your life that you feel needs work, what do you consider is going well and not going well, and why? Before you make a meaningful change, it’s beneficial to know what you’re working with—your starting point. For example, in a house remodel, you would need to have a clear picture of the blueprint, room dimensions, and foundation in order to know how to successfully plan for and make changes to the structure. Look at your situation with as much objectivity as possible.

Brainstorm how change might happen.

What steps could you take now to facilitate change? If you are unhappy with your job, and you’ve noted the pros and cons, what kinds of actions are you willing to take in order to have a better experience? Is it taking a job at another company with a more supportive work environment? Is it staying at your current job and working on the relationships with your boss, co-workers, or clients by using a different approach?

Stop being hindered by what you think is possible or likely to happen. Imagine the most desirable outcome and then ask yourself ‘what am I willing to shift in order to get that result?’ It is important that you take responsibility for creating the change you want. If other people are involved in order for your desired outcome to manifest, perhaps some shift in YOU (attitude, interaction level or style, perception, etc.) will affect others and cause a result in the same direction.

Take action.

All thought and no action usually does not turn into forward momentum. No matter how small, take one of the steps that you think is needed for your desired change. If that one step seems too overwhelming, then take a half step. Any size step will help guide you on your way.

Suppose you want a more enjoyable work environment and believe that would be supported by strengthening the relationship with one of your co-workers. An action step may be to make more of an effort to engage that person daily in conversation. Through talking daily, you can learn what their interests are and what’s important to them, which will increase your understanding of them, and make the other person feel more connected to you. Over time you might invite this person to an event outside of work that they’d enjoy, in order to have a chance to develop the relationship further.

Evaluate your results.

If your actions fall short of your expectations, instead of seeing it as a loss or mistake, consider it a learning opportunity as you found out what didn’t work. Knowing what doesn’t work is as important as knowing what does. If your action garnered positive results, decide if you will continue the action or if a new and different step is called for.


Most often, one action step—even a huge one—is just the beginning. To reach your goal you will want to continue the process of evaluation, action and re-evaluation. As this is a meaningful change for you, it will be worth your effort. Be patient, recognize your progress, and enjoy the journey.

Life Balance


Balance is an essential part of life. When elements in nature become unbalanced, they eventually correct themselves. The more out of synch the elements in nature are, the more intense the correction—what we call “natural disasters.”

If a houseplant is completely ignored, or only taken care of sporadically, the plant will not do well and might even die. If you give it too little attention—keep it away from sunlight, deny it water, or fail to plant it in the right soil—you can’t expect it to flourish. This is analogous to not taking care of an area of your life. By the same token, spending too much time and effort in a particular area of life is not healthy either. It’s like over-pruning the plant or providing it with too much water or sun.

As in nature, when we experience imbalance in areas of our lives—working too much, ignoring our finances, not taking time for self-love—there will be subsequent results.

There are 4 main areas of life most of us can identify with as being significant:

  • Relationships – Our interactions with and connections to family, friends, and community.
  • Finances – The money we earn, save, invest, and spend.
  • Career – What we do (for pay or not) that contributes to our profession or career goals.
  • Self – Our spiritual, emotional, intellectual, and physical needs and desires.

Every life area is important and needs attention to foster balance. When we spend most of our focus in one area—say, putting all our attention on our career—then another area will most likely suffer—for example, relationships or self-care.

Take a few minutes to determine what percentage of time and energy you spend in each of these areas. Are any of them lacking? Is there a way you can bring those areas into greater balance? What is one step you could take to do so? Perhaps it’s consolidating one or two workdays each week in order to spend that time with family. Or maybe it’s scheduling a monthly massage or earmarking 10 minutes each morning to journal. If your finances need attention, maybe consulting a financial advisor or a friend who excels in budgeting is in order. Commit to taking at least one action step in any life area that is out of balance, no matter how small it seems.

The amount of attention each life area needs may be different. Determine the amount of focus and energy that feels right for you. It may initially take a bit of focus, discipline, and effort to keep our life in balance, but like anything else we keep practicing, it will soon become second nature.

The Importance of Keeping Good Company: Finding Your Five

Think about it for a moment; who do you spend most of your time with? Draw a few people into your mind, and expand on this thought, what beauty do you find  those people bringing to your life? Do those who’ve come to mind create a calm, positive environment when you’re around them, or are they a perfect storm of chaos? It may not be something that you regularly think about – but this examination may be incredibly important to your success, both personally and professionally. 
Entrepreneur.com recently highlighted “Why the Five People Around You Are Crucial to Your Success,” prefacing  on the idea that in business, and life, “You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with,” according to renowned business guru Jim Rohn; a fascinating man who boasts an incredible forty year history of helping people around the world “sculpt life strategies that have expanded their imagination of what is possible” in both business and beyond. 
In the article, they note: “You need people —whether it’s co-founders, mentors family or friends – who will challenge you and make you better, thereby raising your average or helping you maintain a high one. Many entrepreneurs strive to be the smartest person in the room on every issue. But if you’re always the smartest person, you’re hurting yourself. You want to surround yourself with people who can run circles around you in as many areas as possible, people who are exponentially better in a variety of ways.”
It makes sense, right? Not just for entrepreneurs, but for our own everyday lives. Those who are more in-tune or creative in one part of life, definitely help build our strength when it may be a natural weakness of ours. A lot of times, they too, will help us become more confident in that skill, and help us to develop it further – challenging us to become our best self, bit by bit. 
So, if we all do need those fabulous five in our lives; how do we choose them? It’s harder said than done. Especially to identify and utilize these people in the most mutually beneficial way without  feeling like we cast others we love outside of ‘our circle.’ It’s also difficult to discern what would make someone ‘more valuable’ than someone else when we love different people for different gifts that they bestow upon our lives. 
It may sound overwhelming, yes, but never fear! Here are three tips to developing a ‘personal board of directors’ in a way that feels natural and fair to the nuances and specialities of all of your interpersonal relationships:
1. Don’t make it personal. Many times, we love the most important people in our lives just as they are –  and unconditional love is a good thing! For this exercise, however, allow yourself to see beyond love and identify your closest confidants who exhibit  the most positive and consistent high-quality traits for you to emulate that will enhance your personal and professional life. 
2. Open Yourself Up to Others. One of your five may not necessarily be who you’d expect – that’s great! In fact, the more self-reflective you are when identifying this group, the more likely you are to identify the right people for the right reasons, as mentioned above. When you allow yourself to be open to examining your relationships honestly, the choices will be clear to you. 
3. Be aware of YOU. Without examining ourselves –  identifying our best traits and attributes in our character that we’d like to strengthen – we won’t be able to find the qualities in others that best suit our needs. And, most important of all, the reciprocal, we won’t be able to meet the needs of those in our lives who need us to be in their boat with them. 
You’re on your way now to finding your five; and that’s exciting. Here is something even more incredible to feel blessed about today: Everyone else is still there! 
Each one of the people that you didn’t add to this small, albeit important, list is still on your team cheering you on. They may not be in your ‘boardroom’ but they’re everywhere else in your life!  Remember to celebrate those gifts, too, no matter how great or small, every day. 

How a Vision Board Can Help You Build the Future You Want

Vision Boards bring the Law of Attraction into your consciousness daily. The use of a vision board allows you to consistently think about what you want and how to draw that closer and closer to you. Every time you look at or add to it you will feel all the positive thoughts, feelings and beliefs that you can and will create what you want for your life.

Creating a vision board is fun. Use any size corkboard or piece of hard paper. I like corkboard 2’ by 3’ as it allows me to use pushpins so that I can add and/or move things around. Some people prefer to use a magnetic board and others glue and cardboard, it is your choice. You will be creating a collage of your dream, or healing.

Cut out pictures and/or words from magazines, your personal photos, the Internet and create the dream or healing that you are moving towards you.

Finding a Soul Mate

Gather photos and images that are coupled. Find photos of people that look like the partner you would like to attract. Make sure they are doing things that coincide with your values as well. Use images of couples that are listening to each other, seem content, happy, like each other.


Collect images and words of houses and neighborhoods, cities or towns or open space that represents for you where and how you want to live. Include trees, flowers, style of house, the furniture and appliances for inside the house, the more detailed, the better.


What is your passion. Find photos that represent your passion for a career. If you are unsure of the exact career you desire find images and words that express your values about what defines a successful career. Some examples could be: charity, working with children, helping others, accumulating large sums of money, power and prestige.


Find images and words that represent healing and health for you. So, first ask yourself what does healing and health look like for me? People playing tennis, ice-skating, yoga, sailing, all represent health to me. As do sunrises, forests, streams, baby animals, vast green pastures…what about you? Once you have defined what health looks like for you create it on your vision board.

Happy Relationship

If your relationship is not working the way you would like, instead of wishing your partner would change, become proactive and begin by creating a vision board. On this vision board you will want to place images of couples in love and who look as if they love each other. These couples will be having fun with each other. Use images of places where you and your partner have been, want to go, visited and lived. Use photos of you and your partner from your personal albums. Remember to use words, like love, commitment, forgiveness, joy…you get the picture.

To Lose Weight

Use images of people that are your ideal weight, not a fantasy body, but a body and weight that is realistic to your body type. Have images of foods that you know are healthy for you and of people like you enjoying these foods.

Creating Wealth

Images of whatever you consider to be wealth is what you want here. People have different ideas about what being wealthy is. For some it is literally money for others it may be land, for others having many children. So consider what it is for you and use the images and words that correspond with your beliefs to create wealth in your life.