Wealth: How to Achieve It
Believing that you are wealthy is the first step to being so. I have noticed that many people worry about not having enough money. How much they earn does not seem to be a factor, they worry whether they earn $38 million dollars a year or twenty thousand—that’s a pretty big differential. What they tell […]
Increase Self-Esteem in a Few Easy Steps
Taking responsibility for your life is the key to having high self-esteem. Here are two clues that your self-esteem is not as high as you might like it to be: Blaming others for what does or does not happen in your life. Complaining about your life as if you have no say in it. Having […]
The Ex-Factor: How to Get Over It
It may seem impossible in the beginning, but you can find peace from the pain of a break up. Getting over your ex certainly depends upon the level of intimacy between the two of you as well as the amount of time you have spent together. Many people have a challenge letting go of […]
Satisfying Sexual Relationships: How to Make them Work
A satisfying sexual relationship is an important part of intimacy, which is what most people are actually looking for when they use the term chemistry. A first date is just an introduction to a person’s immediate personality— take them at face value. If you’re interested in what they have to say and feel respected and […]
Successful Communications for Healthy Romantic Relationships
It’s everyone’s right to exercise their (positively-charged) power in a situation where they are made to feel uncomfortable, whether purposefully or accidentally. Many times, it’s easier than we think to get someone to see our point of view; we just have to make sure that we’re open and honest with them. Communications barriers build up […]
Releasing Emotional Baggage
Especially when it comes to romance, many women hold so very tightly on to trying to keep in control of their own emotional needs in the relationship. Trust issues, personal insecurity, and other nagging problems arise—and we don’t know how to put them away. When we’re not whole within ourselves, it’s easy to allow outside […]
Advice on a Self-Affirming View of Aging
As a society, we place such an enormous significance on the number of our age, especially as women. How we feel about our age and our looks as we get older go hand-in-hand— many women feel uncomfortable with both. Firstly, it’s important to consider it from a perspective of experience. Nostalgia is a powerful emotion. […]
Giving and Receiving: Allowing Yourself to Experience Both
As the holidays begin, I’m very often asked, how do I know if I am giving enough? And then, am I giving the right thing? Who do I want to give to? Who do I have to give to? Can I afford to give? The list goes on forever. At the heart of these questions […]
Growing Intimate Relationships
As we enter into and exist in our adult lives, we begin to prepare for many things— establishing a satisfying career for ourselves, living on our own, purchasing property or our own car. We put much time into the preparations of these occasions but rarely put thought into what it means to be married. You […]
Why Small Moments Matter
Recently, The Intelligent Optimist sat down for a Q&A with Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche, head of a worldwide network of meditation centers, talking about optimism and fundament goodness—asking one very provocative question for our time: TIO: Can fundamental goodness be seen in the face of violence? SR: ‘Every moment presents an opportunity to recognize the core […]